Why This Exists

Confusing relationships have one thing in common: they make you doubt yourself. You replay arguments. You wonder if you're too sensitive. You ask yourself — constantly — "Is it me?"

WasItMe was built for that moment. Not to diagnose your partner. Not to label your relationship. But to give you a clear, honest look at the patterns you're experiencing — so you can make informed decisions about your own life.

What This Assessment Does

Our 25-question assessment measures five key dimensions of relationship health: emotional invalidation, control and boundaries, gaslighting and confusion, accountability, and empathy and reciprocity. Your responses are scored and compiled into a full report that gives you real insight — not vague reassurance.

What This Assessment Does NOT Do

This assessment does not diagnose narcissistic personality disorder or any other mental health condition. It does not label your partner. It is not therapy, legal advice, or medical advice. It is a self-reflection tool — and a serious one.

Important Disclaimer

WasItMe.com is not a licensed mental health service. If you are in an unsafe situation, please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233, or call 911. This tool is for educational use only.

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